As I was preparing my coffee this morning, I left my phone in the room, so I was left pondering at the dining table. And I suddenly smiled to myself because I realized how lucky I am that I am in such a happy and content marriage. I do hope it’s a two-way thing! Baka ako lng pala masaya! So there I was, thinking, wow, it’s been a few years, 4 years, 3 months, 4 days, 18 hours, 36 minutes to be exact, and I actually don’t want to suffocate him with a pillow while he sleeps at night! I actually want to hug him and snuggle him while he sleeps. And while I was waiting for my coffee to finish, I realized I knew why we were in such a great stage in our marriage.
1. We are a team. We’re partners. We make decisions together. And if the decision we made was the wrong one, we don’t blame each other. We dust our shoulders and go, ‘Ehh! Better luck next time for us.’ And life goes on.
2. Aside from that, we also have a lot in common, like our love for video games, watching movies in the comfort of our own beds, walking aimlessly during travels, and all sorts of stuff. But of course there are also things that I like doing that he doesn’t and vice versa, in which we constantly support each other on, unless it becomes harmful to the relationship.
3. Lastly, we accept each other for our quirks. My husband can be makulit. Like really makulit. He tends to pressure me a lot and reminds to do things during times I don’t want to be reminded. But I know he means no harm and he just wants me to get things done. So I know that his makulitness may never die down, so I’ve learned to accept it and taught myself to handle it (like taking a deep breath before replying to his message so I don’t go looney on him). And of course, he’s accepted my quirks too. Like how my fart stinks so much at night. Ooooops! Too much information! I’m kidding my fart smells like flowers! Seriously! Anyway, my point is, we didn’t get into this marriage to change the person in a drastic way, or turn them into someone they’re not, because, first of all, the person we fell in love with was that perfectly imperfect person (I’m quoting John Legend on that).
So, to sum it up, I know it hasn’t been ages since we got married, but I think if we keep things going the way they do, I think we’ll make it til the end, assuming he doesn’t die from my farts. :)